Life thoughts

 Nature never hurries, but all its cycles happen just as they should. Why do we hurry then? Stop the hurry. Enjoy the journey. Lack of sleep or overworking is not something to brag about.

Don't try to be cool, ever. You'll be cool when you're dead. 

The first step to change is acceptance. Including your own self. Especially* your own self.

You deserve what you desire.

Add passion in your life, in everything you do. Make it fun. Exciting.

You don't have to control the world and you can't, but you control yourself and your reactions, choices, thoughts. Thoughts create emotions. 

It always ends well somehow. Remember when you didn't know how you'll make it and you ended up making it? Then you said "I have no idea how I got here, but thank God I made it". Yeah, you always will. And don't run from failure. It is not as much of a failure as you think. 

When you give up who you are, you become who you could be. 

Do one thing at a time. 

You can't try to be somehow. Trying is the opposite of being. 

There are as many versions of this world as there are people. Choose your version.

Don't try to be perfect. Perfection is not human. Is not normal. Is not possible and is not ok. You never learn from it, so when you want to learn from someone's "perfection", know there is either no perfection or nothing to learn. 

You can't be liked by everyone, accept that. You don't like everyone. Don't try to dim your light to fit somewhere. Just be yourself. And to be that, you need to stay with yourself. Just you. And allow yourself to be and feel and observe. To fall in love with yourself. To live. Feeling is living.

Don't try to prove yourself to anyone. Not even to yourself. Your worth will never have to be proven and it has never had to.

Find your peace. Not in a destination, but in the journey. Otherwise, it is like chasing a rainbow to find happiness. You never will. 

Do something that brings you peace. Find it. Find yourself. It is not too late, unless you're... "cool" (dead). 

Life is meant to be lived. Not just to exist. What makes you feel truly alive? When have you felt truly alive? What makes others truly alive that you could try too?

Move your body - dance, yoga, stretching, workout, walks, jumps of happiness especially when you're sad. Anything that makes you feel good. 

Stop comparing your worst life events with someone's best life events. Everyone feels pain like you do. Every single person feels pain. This is how we grow. Those succesful people on tv? Yeah, even them. But most of those are not actually as succesful as they present themselves. 

You don't blame a flower for not growing like another, so don't blame yourself. Talk to yourself like you were your partner. Like you want to be loved. Like you love others.

 The only person that owes you something is yourself. The rest is just expectations that shouldn't be there. 

If you are anxious, make a routine out of 1 simple thing that makes you feel better. The internet is full of ideas, but you probably know them. Don't deny them and sabotage yourself. Or do. You get the consequences.

Be grateful. Even for the pain. Especially for it. Be grateful not just in your mind, but practice it, write it, every single day. You'd be shocked by how your life changes just because of this. Being grateful doesn't only mean thanking people. Not at all. It is much more than this. But people are too blind, too asleep to see it and accept it and try it. As if such an easy answer would be "too easy". Then they are shocked, if they are lucky enough to discover gratitude, that they wasted their whole lives ignoring it and not being aware, regreting it and wondering how many miracles could have happened. What would you miss the most if you lost it? When did you think how grateful you were for it the last time?

It's ok not to be ok. Sounds like a cliché, but it is not just a motivational message. Don't try to feel something different than what you feel. It is wasted energy. Don't try to be someone else. 

Breathe.

There is no such thing as planning the future. You're just planning another present. 

Bring love into your life. Any negative emotion comes from fear. Fear is the lack of love. At all times.

Give without expectations. 

Most people regret not doing something MUCH more than doing something. And most of people's regrets are related to not continuing studying - just a fact.

Stop judging and blaming yourself. It is useless and it destroys your relationships with the others. You'll see. Your reflexion is in the world that's around you.

Being responsible for your life doesn't mean it is your fault. A judge's responsibility is solving a crime, but they're not guilty for it. We are 100% responsible, but no blame is ever needed. When you make mistakes, be even more compassionate with yourself than usually. You need it more. You need it to learn and grow. No one learns from fear. That's just called avoidance.

Take a break and learn every day to do nothing. Not using a phone, not overthinking, not sleeping - just to empty your mind and do nothing. It will be very useful. It gets easier, I promise.

Pet a cute animal. Have a cookie. Smell some nice perfume. Take a walk. Look at the sky. Take a cool picture. Count the colors around you. Breathe. Be present. Be present. The infinite stays in the "now". Life is extraordinary. And there really is a reason behind everything, trust me. 

You think you suck? So what? You think you're boring? So what? Be boring. You think you screwed up? Oh, yeah, you probably did. Nothing bad here. Seriously. Mistakes are GOOD news. You learn from them. Sadness can be good too, for someone who can't feel. But it can never be bad news, because it isn't bad. It is an emotion. Emotions are always good. They help us. At all times. We just have to listen to the emotion, not the thoughts. To literally do nothing. Sounds easy and is the hardest thing to do. The mind is tricky. But we are smarter. With practice. We are not our mind. We are not our body. We are much more than this. 

What people tell you doesn't define you, it defines them. What you tell them defines you. How you act, what you see in them, it's in you. What you see in yourself is just a reflection of people's insecurities expressed to you while trying to define you. They failed. 

Success can only exist through failure. There is no success without failure, yet we were taught to learn they're opposites. Never could be.

Yeah, you might feel weird sometimes. Not a happy story. But there will always be good in the world, even then. Isn't it cool that there is good even when we feel bad? That the "bad" is just interpretation, perspective? That we choose these things? What is good for some is bad for others. What is bad for others is good for some. But yes, this thought might not help the pain go away. But at least you know and now you can take care of your own pain.

Life is good. There's always good. In nature, in oceans, in life, in you. If you can never be perfect, you can never be the opposite either. It's the law of polarity. You can't be the worst if you can't be perfect. You can't be inferior if you can't be superior. And we're all equal. Yes, you are equal to those you admire. Stop putting them on a pedestal. 

The stars are out there, everywhere. A mess of stars. We never blame their mess, don't we? We are indeed like the universe, we're made of it. We were made from that star dust, we were created in the same world with that beautiful sky, gorgeous flowers, amazing views, water, creatures. What makes you think we would be so different? We all have love inside us. 

Your mind being sick is not any less worrying than you body being sick. People heal from cancer AND from mental disorders. The battle is very much similar, so are the symptoms. It is like comparing a heart disease with a brain disease. With all this said, it doesn't minimize the suffering of those with cancer or maximize the suffering of those with mental disorder. That's not the point.

Allow yourself to cry your heart out. Cry until you no longer have tears. Do it. 

Be vulnerable. It is a sign of strength, not weakness. Whoever says otherwise is just a coward or was taught in a wrong way. But of course, be careful who and how much you trust. 

Forgiveness is not a favor for someone else. It is a favor to ourselves only. It doesn't mean pretending it never happened and trusting that person again. The anger we feel when we don't forgive only affects us. Forgiveness sets us free. 

Wanting is the acknowleding of lacking something. The more you want, the more you think you lack. You don't need to be different in any way. You never will have to. You've never had to. We are our own destination.

Less is more. We are over-crowded, over-doing, over-wanting, over-trying. 

Know your priorities.

What are your values? Here is an online test for discovering them: 

https://personalvalu.es/personal-values-test 

No toxic positivity has been harmed to make this post. Use this information as you wish, through your life. Wishing you well and I hope you find it useful. If you do, make something with it, don't just let it pass as it has never existed.

Your emotions are always valid, real and useful.

Thank you!